This is the rule rather than the exception.
The independent work is just as important as the work we do as a couple. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. From reading the above posts from previous posters, please keep in mind that while it helps to read and learn from each others' experiences as we are all in the same boat -- we must also make the distinction between someone's occupation and their personality or character.
If you do end up having sexual relations, she will feel guilty, and it will affect your relationship, you can count on that.